Courage, Determination & Confidence

Did you often find yourself not brave enough? Or you tends to give up on something just because you are not determined enough to do it? Or you always think that you cannot achieve something due to lack of self-confidence? Well, if that's the case, its time to change yourself.

Had you ever find it hard to make up your mind? The situation where you are struggling with your inner self whether you should do it or leave it. At the same time, you noticed there are those people around you, who can instantly decide as soon as they are asked about something or they encounter some sort of circumstances which will only cause you dilemma. Maybe after you see their courageous decision, you'll say to yourself : "If he can do it, why can't I?" and hence you decided to give it a go. It is correct to say that you gained confidence in it, but unfortunately, its not from your own - it was provided from people around you and therefore, you won't be as determined for the upcoming events.

So, here are some tips on overcoming these weaknesses. In fact, I am also learning as you do.

1.Spend Time With Positive People.

Unfortunately, sometimes when we lack self confidence we can gravitate towards people who instinctively like to put others down. (This behaviour is rooted in their own insecurities - they knock other people to make themselves feel better). However, spending time with negative people is inevitably very bad for our self confidence. Look closely at the people you spend your time with, if they are always criticizing you (either directly or indirectly) try spend more time with people who don’t.

2.Be Yourself - Don’t Imitate

You can only gain self-confidence when you are trying to be yourself. In some social situations we feel awkward so the temptation is to do what you think other people expect; we try to be somebody we are not. But, when we are trying to be someone that we are not, inevitably we lack self-confidence because the element of falseness in being something we are not.

3.Give Yourself a chance to succeed.

If you lack self confidence, it is a bigger mistake to always hold yourself back. Try inspiring yourself to give some activities a chance. If you never attempt anything and avoid engaging in social activities, it is likely that your self-confidence will never get chance to be rebuilt.

4.Dress Confidently

If you are immune to the opinion of the world, and care nothing for outer appearances you can dress like a street beggar and still have self esteem. However, for most of us we do place great value on our physical appearance. This may be a sub conscious feeling. But, if we dress in a confident and appropriate style we will be much more self confident. One doesn’t need to spend a fortune on clothes, but, it is important to have the ability to dress in a way we are happy with.

5.Don’t Criticize Others

The human mind can be tricky at times. Quite often the mind tries to boost our self esteem by criticizing and denigrating others. The mind feels that if we point out the weaknesses of others we can feel somehow ’superior’ to others. This however, is a false way to boost self esteem. When we criticize other people, we are in a negative frame of mind and we are more likely to doubt ourselves. The thing to do is look for the best in others. If you try and boost other people’s self esteem it will be much easier to increase your own self esteem.

Well, all I can say is that when you have decided to do something, give it your best shot and do not regret your decision after that, as that will not change anything. Be proud of whatever you did and live life to the fullest.

Tony needs to be more determined and confident.